Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Baby thoughts

I’m thinking about having a baby. Now those who know me well might find this as kind of a shock because I know I have mentioned adoption has been something I have wanted to do like pretty much forever. I still hope to one day adopt a child but right now the cost needed just to get that child much less try to raise it are far outside my means.  This time last year I was introduced to the world of foster parenting. And I do still think that I want to eventually do that as well. But I have learned it takes a lot of support to raise a foster child that might be damaged and I worry that I will have a super hard time finding the support to be a great single foster parent.

I never really thought that I would want to be pregnant and even still I’m kind of terrified of the idea.  But I’m at this age where I don’t want to wait too much longer to have a kid of my own. I have never wanted to be one of those older parents. Its not that I have anything against them but I just know it’s not for me.  I have dreams of having my grand kids hangout in my house for the holidays, baking cookies and buying them tons of presents. Or picking them up after school and taking them to the park and teaching them stuff all while I am still energetic and able to.  I want to be the grandma that I never got to have. See my grandparents were older; one had already passed by the time I was born, and the other was already having health issues when I was pretty young. I remember taking trips to see them which were fun, but they were not a day to day staple in my life. I have always been a little jealous of my friends who get to see there grandparents on a daily basis and I have always wished that I will have that sort of relationship with my own grand kids.

I have really been thinking about  this having a baby of my own thing for the last few months, like seriously weighing the pros and cons about it and I keep coming back to just how much I want one.  I want to be a parent more then I guess I ever realized. I want to have something to teach things to and be able to spend my time with and who is going to be a little me.  I am in no way approaching this decision being rash or without a bunch of serious thought. And I know that being a single parent isn’t ideal and that it’s much frowned on my many social circles. And heck even getting pregnant as a single woman is a challenge in itself. But what I am saying that that I think I’m ready to really consider this as an option for me, and to focus on it this next year. I am going to start to take the steps needed to see about becoming a pregnant and see where that takes me.

Right now it starts with my doctor’s appointment tomorrow and having a frank conversation about where I find an OBGYN and what steps I should take to make sure my fertility is in check. So yeah…tomorrow I think I’m starting my journey to having a baby of my own. Weird two years ago I never would have thought I would ever be saying that, but today I’m excited that I have that as my path.


  1. That's so exciting and grown up sounding, I almost cried! You know I will support you in any decision you choose, but I am particularly excited about this one for some reason. Maybe because it will mean we can add long awaited motherhood to all the things we already share in life. I can't wait! :)

  2. Well,I know you will make a wonderful mother, there is soooooooo much of your self you must give and a big heart is one of the best best attributes you seem to shine and give to the world. If it is meant to be and a serious plan then GO FOR IT!! You can never go back but who wants to when you have great kids!! Mom